Wrong Bus

It’s been about a year now in Lagos (the busiest city in Nigeria) but I still don’t get the whole commuting process. You walk to a bus stop, keep your ears open through deafening sounds as bus conductors yell out the names of their various destinations.

So there I stand, looking so lost and paranoid as I tighten my grip on my handbag while waiting for a bus. A bus soon arrives heading my way and the other impatient commuters almost throw me off course as they push and shove their way into the bus. I just don’t get the rush! An average Lagosian walks at five steps per second (Ok, maybe I’m exaggerating) but you get the point; everyone is in a hurry.

The first bus leaves and then the next and I begin to pace as I frantically glance at my wrist watch. ‘Lord, send me my bus’ I silently pray. Emphasis here is on ‘my’ not just ‘a’ bus but ‘my’ bus. Now this is where we take this analogy into other things that matter far more than just getting a ride to our destinations.

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There’s a bus for everyone. But most times we miss it as a result of impatience. Let’s face it, the world is in such a hurry that we begin to set time for God (the one who created time). We say stuffs like; Lord, I want to graduate at 21. Get married at 24. And while you’re at it, get me that multi-billion dollar contract before I turn 30. And God is probably smiling as He looks at the master plan and shakes his head like ‘these kids don’t know what they are saying’.

Ever heard that line ‘God is always right on time’? Well, it doesn’t always look like it. Come on! We’ve been waiting for good stuffs to happen. Time is running out. I want to graduate. I want to get married. I want to have kids. I want that big job. I want to move to a new location. God, are you even listening? And then He goes; Chill child, I’ve got this. Wait for it.

Only a few of us would heed and wait. But within a few months we begin to panic. Oh God, it’s not happening. You said I should wait, but clearly you’ve forgotten about me. Look at my friends, they’ve got new jobs, new cars and did you see that Diamond rock on her finger? Or don’t you love me?

Some of us even decide to help him. Umm, Lord, you’re yet to send the man after your heart for me, but come on, this guy here is good. He doesn’t believe in you but he helps people. I guess this is it Lord. Oh yes! Even Sarah did it; we’ve been waiting for this son you promised. Well, maybe you wanted us to figure out how to make it happen. So here, Abraham, take Hagar and let’s make a baby! We feel God is not fast enough and we want to help catalyse the process.

Personally, I think it’s not in our DNAs to wait. We want things and we want them NOW!!! We push, we shove, just to have our ways. We even sulk, get angry at God, and get envious of our friends who seem to be having things working right for them. When things aren’t happening at our pace, we feel God is slow. So slow, the internet explorer is way faster!

Sometimes God allows us have our way. We get on-board the wrong buses and learn the lessons we could have avoided on the journey. The relationship we hurried into turns sour. The stuffs we pushed others to have doesn’t satisfy any more. We end up in a miserable state we didn’t have to be, if only we waited.

Waiting is hard. It’s frustrating. The worst part is when you’re waiting and others are moving. Ever been on a lane in traffic that isn’t moving an inch and you look through the window to see another lane where the cars are flying past. You’d be tempted to blame yourself or the driver for not being on that lane or in that fast moving bus.

To be honest, there would be such moments when people around you would seemingly be on fast lanes. Getting different breakthroughs they didn’t necessarily have to wait for. And you might begin to panic. But at that point, it is most crucial that you hang on to the promises God has made to you through his word.

So let’s do it—full of belief, confident that we’re presentable inside and out. Let’s keep a firm grip on the promises that keep us going. He always keeps his word-Heb 10:23 (MSG)

Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful-Heb 10:23 (NIV)

Back to my story. Within a few minutes, ‘my’ bus arrived. No one struggled with me for it. The bus waited till I got in and I even got a comfortable seat! I got to my destination right on time. And I smiled within myself and blessed God.

Please note, this doesn’t always happen in the physical sense of it in Lagos; especially if your faith doesn’t carry it; you may just end up getting super late for work. Please be wise in this regard!

However, in the spiritual sense of it, it is important you are sensitive to your rightful bus. Don’t get on the wrong bus just because it’s on the fast lane. Besides, why hurry when the one who controls time says ‘it’s not yet time’? He will make things happen for you at the time He has appointed, and believe me, there’s no time more perfect than that!

Take a chill pill. Relax. God’s got this. 🙂

Lots of love,

Mfon Etuk




11 Comments Add yours

  1. fabianwhyte says:

    Wonderful work. Keep it up.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Dainty M says:

      Thank God! And thanks for commenting 🙂


    2. Thanks a lot for reading and commenting. God bless you

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  2. At times we feel God is not fast enough and we want to catalyse the process* Strong point raised. As much as we need to play our part in life and try to make things happen I know we should always remember that ‘Man proposes, God disposes’
    We thank God for this because He helps us filter wrong choices, eliminating the bad roads we built. We grieve in such situations forgetting to look at the brighter side of every situation but thanks for this post which has given us more insight. God bless you richly.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Dainty M says:

      Amen! God bless you too for this platform!

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Amina says:

    Thank you(whoever wrote this), God bless you. Thank you Nnamdi for also featuring it


    1. Dainty M says:

      Thank God! God bless you too for reading and commenting 🙂


    2. Thanks a lot for taking time to read and comment. God bless you more. It was posted by DaintyM.com an amazing blogger

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  4. Dainty!! This is an awesome post. I can relate to your struggles with the Lagos transport system as this would be my fourth year in Lagos and I only started taking myself around with public transport last year, so my newbie experience is still fresh in mind.

    I too have had to wait for God’s time in many things. Most recent of which is my admission and why I haven’t started formal tertiary education. For some reasons, when I got admitted into schools my parents would change their mind about it. They said they just didn’t feel right about them.

    We finally found the one with which we felt God would be well pleased. The catch? The admission process was the most rigorous of all I’ve ever applied to. And now I have to wait till August to begin. But I’m keeping myself busy till then.

    With hindsight, I’m okay with it now. As with each passing day, my eyes are opened to reasons why I needed the break before going into school immediately. But initially it was something else. I wanted to die.(just kidding) It was made worse by the fact that all my friends were in school and would be hitting me up from time to time with, “Guy how far na?, where are you now?” And questions like that, which are not meant to annoy, but end up annoying you because of condition.

    So that’s why I agree with you so much. It really is more difficult when it seems others are getting ahead. But If we all could see the end from the beginning, no one would need to tell us that these waiting periods are for our good.

    As we are not endowed with such ability, we have to rely on our trust and confidence in God. I’ve come to the point where I know that God would not lead me a ditch. That these waiting periods would be worth it in the end.

    Thank you for re-enforcing my belief!


    1. Dainty M says:

      There’s something encouraging about other’s testimonies such as yours. I’m like wow! You just shed more light on this. Thank you so much. I’m amazed by what God is doing in your life Kelechi! God bless!


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